8 May 2012

Participation what?!?

This is a shout out to parents, non-parents and everybody else... Why the FUCK does every kid get a ribbon or medal these days? I mean seriously?!? If you come in last place, you don't get an award. Simple as that. It's like encouraging kids to fail. Some people will argue that it hurts their self-esteem when they don't get anything even though they tried so hard. Are you fucking kidding me? Losing should encourage them to try harder next time. I know that is what losing taught me.

Kids today are way too coddled and it pisses me off, a lot. People think I'm a bad parent for letting my kid walk to school ALL BY HERSELF. Really. I've heard the chatter and you know what I say to that? Fuck you. At least my kid isn't going to require me to walk her to her first day at university or her first day at her new job. Stop raising sissy kids people! Your child will be fine if they drink from the hose, skin their knees (both of them!) and eat dirt.

You know what else? I rarely make my daughter's lunch! Oh my god, right? Wrong. She is learning skills. So what if she doesn't have a well-balanced meal every lunch. When her body craves it, she'll eat it. I've learnt this. I did an experiment once; we spent the whole weekend eating junk food and by the end of that weekend, she wanted vegetables. No joke. The human body and mind are amazing things.

Sorry, what? Your kid didn't make the soccer team? So? Better luck next time. You'd think... Not the case though. They let them play. They even get equal field/ice time with the kids that truly deserve it. What does this teach kids? Losers prosper! Great lesson. My daughter cannot sing, not at all. I think tone deaf is the word to describe what I hear when she "sings". She wanted to audition for the children's choir. Not only did I tell her it wasn't a good idea, I told her why. She now knows that she has to focus on her other talents such as dancing and Tae Kwon Do. Isn't it better they hear it from their parents before they make a fool of themselves? What is more damaging? However, if she insists on auditioning, who am I to stop her? At least she goes in there with all of the facts. On a side note, she was singing karaoke at a party the other night and the mother told me she has a beautiful voice. Hmmm... is the other mother tone deaf or am I?

Further, parents these days are bringing up their children to be quitters. You know the kids that flit from one activity to another, never committing to anything? My daughter has a few friends like this. It drives me crazy! Unless there are extenuating circumstances, make them follow through. Insist they get their black belt, hold them responsible for their paper route and if they fall down, tell them to get the fuck up and keep going. A kid like this will be no benefit to society. Their friends, family and co-workers will call them flakes, they will be stuck in middle-management for the rest of their lives and they will never make it to the top of that mountain.

I know just as well as others that we need these types of people, these are the people that help us to the top and don't even realise they are doing it. Why on earth would you encourage your child to be one of these? I call these people stairs and the name is quite fitting. They get trampled on by the eager and ambitious and rarely get thanks for their efforts. Why? Because nobody recognises their efforts. They only recognise them as the people that said they would help, helped for a quarter of the time and then fucked off leaving me and you to finish the race.

Are we going to be left with a generation of quitters and losers to run the country when we are too old to do so? Not if my kid has anything to say about it. And you know what I say back? Trample their asses child. They'll still get a participation ribbon.




2 comments:

  1. Bang on sister!!

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  2. I totally agree. I was taught to take the knocks as well as the praise and it made me try even harder - not just to please other people but to give me a sense of self worth. What's wrong with eating dirt? What's wrong with not eating things you don't like - my Mum said to try everything more than once because your tastes change and she was right. Look at sushi for me! What's wrong with knowing the worth of money and what it costs to get the things you want - I had to save my allowance to get stuff, it wasn't a right. Give your kids a break and let them explore the world otherwise they will have no experiences to fall back on and will be a drain on whoever comes into contact with them. They will expect someone else to do stuff for them - and some people will. Well said my dear.

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